Changing the Story

There are patterns in life that we notice. For my family, Spring has always been a difficult season.

I’ve written about it a lot. The Madness of March, Good Friday, Longwood, The Final Gift are just a few posts that address tragedy and loss in this beautiful season of growth and renewal.

It occurs to me that we have the power to change the narrative, change our perception, even our mood.

Turn the Page

Photo by Igor Negovelov –

We can indeed turn the page.

A simple example just happened for me.

Spending time with my daughter in her new home, with all the hope and promise she shared, allowed me to welcome in the Easter holiday in a perfectly new way.

Positivity. Optimism. Sheer joy.

It is the reason I also worked carefully to plan my second pregnancy so as to welcome my son in the month of April.

Almost 30 years ago.

It still works to keep me looking forward to the month of April and out of the many moods of March.

There will be setbacks, no doubt. Our extended family will always provide challenges, but it is so comforting to know that we will/can survive them all.

We can always turn another page.

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49 Responses to Changing the Story

  1. Nurse Kelly says:

    Thank you for your beautiful words of wisdom and optimism. I’m thankful for your inspirational spirit, Van. Hope your spring continues to bloom with joy-filled days. xo

  2. LaVagabonde says:

    So nice to hear your spring is filled with light. 🌷

  3. Wow, I didn’t even plan and welcomed both my boys in April. Maybe my subconscious knew it would be a good thing!

  4. Yes, we truly can turn a page. Here’s to more inspiration and positivism 🙂

  5. Yes Spring helps us turn that page.. And as you rightly said.. we at times need to turn our thoughts to those brighter things in life as we so often feel de-pressed by the winter’s gloom and the constant bombardment we are dealt via the world at large..
    Happy forthcoming Birthday to your Son.. and I hope your daughter has many years of delight in her new home.. ❤

  6. Erika Kind says:

    It is true what you say. Things happen and we need to turn the page at times. My mother-in-law chose the birthday of my son to die. He felt horrible the first two years. I couldn’t stand it when my theatric sister-in-law started talking on his birthday how tragic it was. I said: “Yes, it is sad, but I am happy that we have something beautiful to celebrate on that day too and that counts more, because Joe is still here.”

  7. Page turns don’t have to keep us on our toes in real life!

  8. Val Boyko says:

    You are here. That is all the proof needed to show that new pages can be turned every season and every day. 💕

  9. Yes…Always. Excellent, thank you.

  10. Thank you for your inspiring words, Van. Great reminder! 💛

  11. megdekorne says:

    So beautiful dear friend ….turning a new page with hope and joy …thank you van for this inspiration ….love , megxxx

  12. Nice to know the spring is full of hope and light… 🙂 Always, indeed…

  13. Such wonderful thoughts and ideas! I love where you say we can change our perception, turn the page! so inspirational!

  14. Norah says:

    We do have the power to rewrite our own stories. Thanks for sharing the power, and best wishes to you, your daughter in her new home, and your family.

  15. lbeth1950 says:

    It is wonderful that your daughter’s joy is changing things for you.

  16. Those shifts in perspective are powerful, Van, and they seem important since loss can litter many seasons. It’s hard when they cluster together or hang over holidays like a cloud (as in my case). How wonderful that you can tap inot the joy of your daughter’s new home and start gathering new impressions of Spring.

  17. George says:

    Quite a few years ago November was that month for us. Too many losses or difficult one to. Then our daughter was born in November and we never looked back. I’m so glad you found a way to turn that page. Here’s to many happy March days in your future.

  18. Moody Much says:

    Great post! Spring does seem like an odd time for struggles, but I totally feel the timing the same as well. Is it the tragedies and even something more I always wonder. You are right in turning the new page, working on that, but I also hold my tragedies dear, so conflicting. Thank you for the great words!

    • It’s somewhat ironic to be down during the season of growth, rebirth, flowers, etc. And I do understand the love/hate we all have with our personal tragedies. Thanks for your thoughtful comment, Moody. ❤️

  19. Truth! Yes, we cannot change what happens to us but it’s great to know that we have the ability to change how we react to it. Thank you for this beautiful reminder.

  20. Beautiful. Happy belated Easter.

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