The Gift of Stress. How Lobsters Grow.

With very few words, this post and brief video has been viewed almost 1000 times, more than any other on this blog.  It might say something about the level of stress in ourselves, our families, our world.  Time for a reminder.


A brief but brilliant way to look at dealing with stress.


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112 Responses to The Gift of Stress. How Lobsters Grow.

  1. Erika Kind says:

    Wow, fantastic!!! I will reblog this, Van! That is amazing!!! Thank you for sharing!

  2. Erika Kind says:

    “Time of stress is time of growth!” What an insight! Please, watch this 1:31 minutes video!

  3. Amy says:

    Very wise. I love this one. I have found it to be true, and I am glad I have been willing to feel the pain at times in order to experience the growth. Great post!

  4. Judy Martin says:

    That was an amazing take on stress! It does actually make sense though that we need it in order to grow. Great post Van 🙂

  5. That man has spoken such perfect sense. Thanks for sharing this, Van.

  6. C.E.Robinson says:

    Good point, Van. Just a simple metaphor that stays in your mind. Maybe hiding under a rock at times (going silent) is a good thing to reflect what’s “uncomfortable” and get rid of it! Then emerge and make way for new growth! Chryssa

  7. I’m watching someone dear and very close to be going through a “Hiding under the rock” period in their life.
    I also noticed it’s a behavioral pattern, they are not doing it for the first time.
    It makes sense, and I really needed to see this.
    Thank you.

  8. This is brilliant! very interesting thoughts! love this

  9. It just makes sense, doesn’t it ? Nothing like a powerful, yet simple metaphor. Thanks, Lynn. 💕

  10. Val Boyko says:

    I learned in coaching school “growth never happens in the comfortable”. I also learned that when lobsters shed their shell they are at their most vulnerable .. And so are we at times for expansion and growth. We need to take care of ourselves especially then. 💛

  11. I saw this recently Van, I loved it! ❤
    Diana xo

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  13. Great comparison…made me think!

  14. “Time of stress is time of growth!”

    Powerful quote!

  15. George says:

    Terrific advice. Hard to think about during those difficult moments but worth keeping that thought in front of us when we do.

  16. Grow through adversity. Love it. Nice and succinct video, too.

  17. Ann Koplow says:

    Thanks for helping me grow, Van!

  18. Norah says:

    What a cool perspective on stress! Bring it on, I’ve got some growing to do!

  19. ~ Sadie ~ says:

    Very enlightening . . .
    Great post!!

  20. joey says:

    So true. We all know it, but that lobster simile, that definitive morsel of science, makes it seem more true.

    PS: I wish you had email subscriptions. I apologize, I rarely use the reader anymore.

    • I wonder if there’s any advantage to the e mail subscriptions ? I use the Reader pretty much exclusively. I was overwhelmed by the volume of e’s.

      • joey says:

        Oh I get it. I will try to explain my thoughts on this, although I am not known for tact and I hope I am not offending anyone else — The Reader overwhelms me, because it’s a feed. I feel compelled to stay in The Reader until I am caught up, like Instagram or Facebook. *achem* But with my email, I can choose to read throughout the day, never losing my spot. It just stays there. I don’t spend FOUR HOURS reading everyone. Then now and again, I go through The Reader, see what I’ve missed and catch up on more. It has become impossible to read all the people all the time, and I’ve had to make choices. E-mail allows me to take my time, so the e-mail advantage is for me, the reader, maybe not for you, the writer 🙂

      • Thanks for you input…that makes sense, and the more folks I follow…the more sense it makes. ☺

  21. Thank you for sharing. It makes sense.

  22. Elyse says:

    A brilliant concept! This as you may or may not know, is one of the posts Word Press uses as your “great posts worth seeing”– and they’re right!

    Thanks for the follow (I returned the favor). I look forward to getting to know you.

    • Hey Elyse. Thanks for letting me know. I often wonder which posts are featured there, had no idea this was one. I realized today that I’ve seen your name and comments on a few other blogs that I love, including Victo Dolore. Will be fun to follow you. 💕

      • Elyse says:

        I love VD’s blog (and not just so I can call a doctor VD) —

        I always wonder what they say are my best blogs, so I like to tell folks. Here are the three they list:
        The Gift of Stress. How Lobsters Grow.
        Best in Show
        A Mother’s Pain
        I spend a lot of time in Maine, eating as much lobster as I can, so I opted for that one!

        I’ve been doing this for a long time they have too much to choose from!

      • To return the favor…the 3 blogs featured for you now: The Evolution of a Worry Wart, Fasten Your Seatbelts, Separated at Birth or Spawned.
        See you on the blogosphere ! ☺☺

  23. annj49 says:

    I had found this video recently on Facebook and I too made a blog post out of it just a couple of days ago.

    I found your own blog post, which was done much earlier, through Google just now.
    I love the video and the thought it promotes and enjoyed reading through the comments here.

    I also enjoyed hearing viewpoints on reader and email. I use both because yes, the reader can be a problem in some ways. I also have s problem with unread emails!

    I’m intrigued by the featured post aspect of WordPress, since I have not come across that yet. I’ve only been blogging for a short time. How does one access that feature?


  24. This is absolutely BRILLIANT. Great IMPORTANT post!!

  25. perfect…always try to stay soft 🙂 perfect post Van ❤

  26. Thank you for sharing! Echoes the message I share with my students (and myself). 🌿💚

  27. Oh Van… This was a great share and this short video so so relevant .. We are now all of us in need of taking heed of these wise words.

    Love and Hugs my friend xxx 🙂 xxx

  28. I’m glad you re-posted this. It dovetails with something my father-in-law is famous for saying “People will not change unless the situation is bad enough.”

    Which makes you wonder some times, how bad does it need to get?

  29. Wow- brilliant! I love, love, love this video! Thank you for sharing this truth with us!!!! 😍😍😍

  30. AmyRose🌹 says:

    LOVE this, Van!!! I could not agree more and in fact I am always saying my Life in general is outside of my Comfort Zone and that is why I seem to zoom forward so fast. I’m a fast learner. Yes stress hurts and yiveh it is uncomfortable! I do not like it. Yes stress can make us ill IF we allow it to. It is all in our attitude on how we “react” toward the stress. The picture of how a lobster grows will be in my mind for a long time. Thank you SO much for posting this again!!! (((HUGS))) >3

  31. Val Boyko says:

    Love this analogy to life Van 💕 We have so much to learn in a new way…. even when it comes from older sages!

  32. J.D. Riso says:

    Thank you for this, Van. 💐✨

  33. Wonderful! thanks for sharing van

  34. Oh my – I did need this message today Van! Thank you for the great reminder to hang in there and grow! #shepersisted

  35. prior.. says:

    how refreshing was this….thx, Van
    times of stress are times for growth….
    and to use adversity properly –
    and all with the analogy of a lobster…

    • Most welcome..glad you took something away from it. 💘

      • prior.. says:

        and don’t we need more and more talk about the “value” of adversity? also, so nice to see a rabbi talking – quite different for me.

        have you ever read the children’s book where the rabbi helps a man to appreciate his everyday life –

        It Could Always Be Worse: A Yiddish Folk Tale (Zemach, 1990) – it is pretty cool because the rabbi helps this complaining man by having him bring all the animals into his home. by the end of the story – the rabbi tells him to let the animals out and his house is quite and peaceful. It is the same exact atmosphere as it was at the start of the book = but the man’s view is now changed – he appreciates again – ahhhh- all about the outlook.

      • Fascinating, for sure, thanks for the reference…I was not familiar. And it seems so right…it has always been about the outlook.

  36. A topic made perfectly clear with an excellent presentation.
    great post Van

  37. Highly motivating message. When we harness our stress properly, we grow. I guess it means a lot miss out on the opportunity because instead of growing through the process they search for quick Dr. Fix-it.

  38. Well that was the pause that refreshes! Thanks for sharing it. Very timely.

  39. Wonderful and timely. Thank you for sharing, Van. 🙂

  40. Tina Frisco says:

    “Times of stress are also times that are signals for growth.” We tend to tense up and constrict when under stress. Seems relaxing and letting go is lot more productive! Nature has a lot to teach us 🙂

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  42. Ipuna Black says:

    I love how short this is! What a powerful message.
    My summary: Times of stress are we need to use for growth. Use adversity properly so you can grow through it. When things feel uncomfortable, don’t take a pill (although you may need one), see if you can learn and grow from the situation.
    All wonderful take home messages. I love it! Thanks for sharing!

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