Candid Comments

Blog posts are planned, considered, edited. Comments are not, they are spontaneous.

That is where the good stuff lives.

Did you ever submit a comment, then sit back and wonder how it would be received ? Did I just say that ? Where did that come from ?

It happens to me all the time, on my own blog thread, or another person’s post.

You get a “Like” on a comment from the past, you don’t recognize your own words, do not remember what inspired them. It can be very enlightening to revisit that older post, just part of the joy of active blogging.

Courtesy. WordPress.

I chose this graphic for a specific reason, the raising of the hand. I was the kind of student who always had my hand up (sorry about that).

I wanted to be heard, and curiosity would get the best of me. I questioned/challenged everything.

The blog comments are like that for me. My hand is always in the air.

As you begin to follow more blogs, the process gets complicated. Some will honor a writer with a polite “Like”. To make a comment, you need to have read and understood the intention of the post.

I love it when that happens, both as a reader and a writer.

Just one example of many…

There was a very personal post about grief that prompted a comment from me that made me pause, an “Aha” moment.

It read, in part… “some of us built a wall at a very young age to protect ourselves from drama. I still have mine. Grief resides there, it does not need company.”

I want to thank the author of that year-old post, and express my gratitude for all the commenters who make this such a rewarding experience.

The good stuff.

******* Just found out from WordPress, this is my 500th post.

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129 Responses to Candid Comments

  1. mliae says:

    I had to comment on this one. It’s true. Comments are like spontaneous verbal eruptions & we’re never quuuuiiiiittteeee sure how it comes across. Good post ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. Blogging is enriching that way. In a way that those who don’t write, or don’t engage in social media don’t quite appreciate and/or understand.

    • This blogging…such a different experience for many of us. The response is so much better, more genuine than other forms of social media. Hard to describe to those outside the loop. Thanks, Maggie, for always chiming in here.

  3. kingmidget says:

    I had hoped there would be more commenting, more discussing when I started my blog. I look at these things as an opportunity for a conversation with a whole range of individuals out there. That, unfortunately, is not what happened for my blog. The lack of such a commenting conversation has led to me blogging less.

  4. I comment as much as time allows, Van. To me, it’s the foundation of online friendships. Comments are where personality emerges and the conversation begins. Over time, a relationship deepens, not necessarily across the board, but with that potential. Lovely post. โค

    • It can bog down at times, especially when you start following more blogs. But, I’ve found there is a core readership for each of us, and I really look forward to those conversations. They are often so much more revealing than the original blog post, and often inspire our writing. Thanks so much, Diana, I always appreciate your feedback.

  5. Great post, Van. I comment, when I feel, that I have something to add to a post.
    Friendships develop over time in here and I love, when a post force me to think deeply.
    Congratulations and for many more posts coming.

  6. I’ve left a few comments and wondered where did I get that inspiration from and in turn will inspire me to write a post.Congratulation on your 500th post! Keep them coming Van. ๐Ÿ™‚

  7. Congrats on your 500 posts! It is interesting what comes up when reading blogs! I have had many moments, memories and ideas after reading a post. Sometimes I am afraid to comment but have overcome that mostly! Thanks for having an inspiring and thought provoking blog!

  8. Bernadette says:

    I have hit that send button too fast in the past and thought jeez I hope the reader understands my comment and it doesn’t seem snarky.

  9. Erika Kind says:

    I know that it is not easy to comment on each and every post we read or even more difficult to read each and every post. But I try to honor my fellow friends and their work with comments. They deserve it. The comments are actually what connects. The posts are only the reason to get together! A lovely post, Van! Thank you!

  10. 500 posts!!! Wowza! When I “Like” a post it is because I have enjoyed stepping into that persons world When I leave a comment, it is to say something profound..like… “great post!” or “lol’ ๐Ÿ˜‰

  11. Sue Vincent says:

    I don’t always comment…unless a post draws one out of me. I’d like to hope that would be the same for other readers too. I love it when a post sparks a real exchange of ideas.

  12. I get frustrated when time constraints keep me from commenting as much as I would like. It is a plus to blogging. But I finally had to guve myself โ€œpermissionโ€ to not comment if I did not have time. It still bothers me but I think most bloggers understand. I always want the other writers to know I was there and read so I leave a like as a little note to my presence.

  13. C.E.Robinson says:

    Wow…Congratulations, Van! The big 500! The quote about a wall to protect ourselves from drama was very powerful! A great visual. Make it sunny on one side, dark & dreary on the other! So true about blog comments. Iโ€™ve made a few that were pretty strong and knew Iโ€™d get nothing back. Sometimes just a polite like. Happy Christmas! ๐ŸŽ„๐ŸŽ„๐ŸŽ„Christine

    • So glad you came in here, C. You were the first to read and comment on this blog, and I’ve never forgotten how much that meant to me as a beginning blogger. Glad you understood my wall comment. And it is a bit of a letdown to make a genuine comment, and not be sure that it was read or comprehended. Not sure I’d keep coming back to those. Thanks again for being there at the start. I still appreciate your presence. Much happiness to you this holiday season.

      • C.E.Robinson says:

        Thanks so much, Van! I always look forward to your posts. Yep, did from the beginning. You are one of my fav virtual blogger friends! Happy Christmas! ๐ŸŽ„๐ŸŽ„๐ŸŽ„Christine

  14. Sometimes, it takes me a bit to process through the meat & taters of a blog post…especially a good one. Much like a hearty meal, it takes time to digest it.

    But once I have, I’ll try to add a bit of dessert, or a splash of an after-meal cocktail.

  15. Ally Bean says:

    A blog without comments is sad. I keep a blog to start conversations, so comments are my reward for the effort I put into blogging. Plus, I learn so much about people in the comment section– either from what they say, or don’t say. ๐Ÿคจ

    • I agree, Ally. Even more sad to me are those who have ample comments, with no responses from the original poster. I don’t understand that one, and I’ve seen some popular blogs like that. Thanks.

      • Ally Bean says:

        I don’t get that either. My guess is that sometimes bloggers use email to respond to comments instead of doing so publicly. That used to be the way we all did comments. Or maybe the bloggers who don’t respond consider themselves a celebrity, and those people who comment are the mere fans. Who knows? People are weird.

  16. I often find the comments chain to be better than the post. That was especially true when Paul Curran was with us – it was his comments that caused so many of us to encourage him to write guest posts for us, and I’m so glad he took us up on that offer. Some of his guest posts on my blog still receive more views than any of my own posts.

    • I saw much of his work. Paul was a very thoughtful writer. And yes, that comment thread often provides such interesting perspective, often inspires other posts. Thanks, CM. (and not CM)

      • Aw, Van, thanks for remembering Not CM. I don’t think she survived the move … unless she’s hiding in one of the packing boxes just waiting for the right moment to reappear.

  17. Wonderful post, Van! Congratulations! ๐ŸŽ‰

  18. Talking is easy. To sculpt a sentence of text takes longer to create. People are not very choosy with their words when talking, practically careless. But the art of writing a sentence in text…..that is _______________ (fill in the blank). Ahhhhhh………the power of carefully orchestrated, choreographed words…..that is why blogging is so amazing on the giving and receiving end. Yet another great post! Thank you.

  19. joey says:

    Aw, that was me ๐Ÿ™‚ It’s one of my favorite comments ever. Thank you and you’re welcome โค

  20. Aimer Boyz says:

    Comments turn a post into a conversation.
    Congratulations on your 500th post ๐Ÿ™‚

  21. Very sound, Van. The conversation is what it is all about – but, sometimes, it is hard to keep up

  22. Congratulations on 500 posts. That is a big milestone. I love to write and read comments and i must admit to feeling disappointed when I only get a like to my comment and no reply. C’est la vie, as they say…

  23. Ron Walker says:

    Comments give life to a post. “Likes” show respect even though the reader may not well versed in what the post is about. I love candid comments, they are free, they are genuine, not disconnected obligatory words. I like photos the same way, candid photos show true feelings and life.

  24. Val Boyko says:

    What a great post for your 500th, Van! Making a comment can take the connection and appreciation further than a simple like. Starting a dialogue brings the post, and all the readers to lifeโฃ๏ธ
    Congratulations on stepping forward and out ๐Ÿ’›

  25. You’re the best short story writer and good friend.
    Have a great weekend!!!!!!!!!

  26. Thanks for the post, Van. I try to leave a comment if I have something to say. Sometimes I read a post that leaves me speechless. I try to respond to comments on my blog because it means something to me that someone took the time to read a post and leave a comment. I’ve heard that some bloggers will ‘like’ a post from the reader without actually reading the post or visiting the blog. I donโ€™t quite understand why. I’ve always enjoyed your blog and value your visits to mine. I do know that feeling of seeing my own words and not recognizing them. It’s an odd sensation. I hope you and your family have a great holiday!

  27. -Eugenia says:

    I love to read comments, which some of the comments can generate ideas for a new post. Engagement with followers is an important part of blogging. Congrats on your recognition for 500 posts.

  28. Comments left by me and other readers have gone on to produce many ideas for future posts, Van. That’s why I can’t understand those you don’t respond to comments. It’s like putting a sign up that only leads to a dead-end. I don’t think there are many of us who want to end up going up that one-way dead-end street very much.

  29. Your stuff is all good stuff Van, great stuff in fact. Congratulations on # 500.

  30. Happy for you in your journey. Thank you so much for enriching mine, friend.

    Xxx

  31. Van, the comments are what I love most about blogging. I think what makes my site is not my posts so much as the comments on my posts.Those comments, the give and take, that’s the real heart and soul of any blog post. ๐Ÿ˜€

  32. Oh… and congratulations on your 500th post. That’s a lot of comments! ‘O)

  33. more often I wanted to hear what others had to say. yes, there was the rare instance
    when I did have ‘my hand up’ and responded only to suggest something I felt needed to be said.
    these is a wonderful post Van

  34. dgkaye says:

    Happy 500th Van. Great post! What’s the point of blogging if we don’t have interaction from our readers? Just sayin’! ๐Ÿ™‚

  35. Congratulations, Van! โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ

  36. J.D. Riso says:

    Wow, happy 500th post, Van!! I’m not even at 200 yet. ๐Ÿ™‚ I have posted comments that make me wonder how they were received, and I wish I could have worded things clearer. And I’ve received some that have irritated me when I doubt that was the author’s intention. But it can depend on mood of the writer and receiver, too. There have been a couple that have totally pissed me off, too, and for good reason. And I don’t regret letting the author have it. ๐Ÿ˜€

    • It’s important to stay true to self, Julie. You do that really well. And yes…so much of our reaction depends on the mood of both writer and receiver. Well expressed. Thanks so much.

  37. Your words here are marvelous, Van. I’m so happy you shared this.
    Congrats on your 500th post! I just noticed that I’ll come up to mine in the not too distant future. I’ve been trying to figure out an easy way to find my 100th, 200th (etc) posts… I thought it would be a nice new years retrospective. But it looks like I have my work cut out for me with that idea. Have a wonderful Wednesday.

  38. Wow! Now I know I’m not alone. Sometimes I write words in the comment box and it seems some unknown force has taken over my fingers as the words just come pouring out. I’m hesitant at times to push the post comment button, really not knowing sometimes how my words will be received. And as for the words about grief … they are deep and I must oh I must think upon them!!! Thank you, Van!! ๐Ÿค—

  39. Array says:

    Congrats on 500!! Wishing you many interesting comments in the future!!

  40. Dear Van, I so relate to this post.. and often as I read back my own comments, I wonder where did that spring forth from.. lol..
    Congrats upon your 500ths post Wonderful..

    And may I also add a Big thank you for all the comments you have made over the years at Dreamwalker’s.. Much love and Hugs your way Van xxx

  41. prior.. says:

    Hi Van – congrats on the 500th post.
    and I enjoyed your notes about comments and how they add such lively enrichment to the blog world.
    I was just sharing with BB (and others) how I think blogging is different from fb and instagram – and reading this post of yours was kind of what I was getting at – or trying to –
    because a couple years ago I realized the gift of perusing and reading posts – it seasons, shapes and enlightens me – and at times – as you noted with the grief insight – it can encourage and edify –
    and so if I do not have time to fully read all the posts (sniff) and if comments are not coming naturally – I do not fret – but when i have the time to soak up posts (and comment) I usually walk away feeling like my mind had spinach and steak – or some fortification – ya know? There are some seriously seasoned folks who take up a blog and it is fun to see what unfolds – ๐Ÿ™‚

  42. Rowena says:

    Thanks for putting this post together, Van. It was a great topic and you provided some great insights, which I hadn’t considered before. I usually leave comments when I read a post, and it’s very rare that I don’t. That either means I was in a hurry or I didn’t really like it or feel inspired by it. I try to ask a question at the end of my posts to engage the reader and encourage not only comments but the type of discussion and banter back and forwards which your post has done. Conversation is a two way street and unlike other forms of writing, blogging is as well.
    I don’t tend to think of my blog as social media and had come up with an alternative, which I’ve forgotten in my current coughing haze. Didn’t sleep well last night.
    Many of the blog posts and the comments which follow are quite philosophical and deep thinking and open my eyes to new aspects of the subject.
    I have also made a number of good blogging friends, who I look forward to chatting with most days.
    Best wishes and many thanks,
    Rowena

    • It’s truly my favorite part of the blogging experience, Ro. I enjoy the conversations, and the insight into character and personality that doesn’t always get reflected in the original post. I feel like it has helped me to get to know so many folks from their writing, a unique phenomenon among people who will hardly ever get to meet in person. Thanks so much for chiming in, it is always appreciated.

      • Rowena says:

        I know what you mean, Van. I’m the same. I find it so easy to hook up at a deep and meaningful level with people through blogging, which can be quite difficult to replicate in the real world. Realized I’d drifted a bit too far beyond the real world and am trying to be more conscious of maintaining a balance. There’s that give and take with the everyday within our local community, which we still need to be a part of.

      • I understand that need for balance…have backed off a bit from the blog over the past year, and it seems to work better for me. Thanks, Ro.

  43. Amy says:

    Yours is one of those blogs I have always enjoyed reading and connected with. I missed it while I was taking a break from blogging so glad to be back and happy to see that you made it to your 500th post! Congrats!

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