For most of my life, it is the way I have presented to the world.
Long hair, pulled back into a pony tail.
It started very young.
My older sister and I shared an evening ritual with my grandmother.
She would take out our hair tie, and brush out whatever tangles had evolved during our busy day.
When we lost her, that loving gesture stopped. Abruptly. My mother didn’t have the patience.
She took us to the local beauty school and had our hair cropped into a pixie cut. Hideous.
I was 6 years old. And I never trusted a hair stylist again. Even into adulthood, I’d have a minor anxiety attack at the thought of getting my hair cut.
It didn’t just change our look, it changed our identity, and pointed out what would become many differences in the way my mother was to raise us.
I kept my hair short for all the years until I left home. And then…it grew. I was surprised at how long it grew. My husband made it clear that he, like many men, preferred long hair.
We were just friends at the time, but somehow, I took his opinion to heart.
When I got talked into a different style, I always had regrets, and I always grew it back long.
Maybe, the style suited my face.
Maybe, it was easy and convenient.
And maybe, it was a throwback to a particularly sweet time in my childhood.
Still wearing that ponytail.
Keep the ponytail, Van! It looks great! If I could only grow my hair long! (sigh) Chryssa
Thanks, Chryssa. I didn’t realize until this picture just how long it was getting to be. Went back to just below shoulder length…more manageable. 👧
Fine hair just doesn’t grow long in the right way. In fact any style is hard to manage. But the ponytail? I can only hope in my next life! Ha
We were a very hairy family…that presented other problems, C., don’t get me started. ☺
Yay for you and your ponytail!
It just seems so much easier, Ann, wash and wear !! 😚
I’m a big fan of easier, Van!
yeh, that pixie thing was bad back in the day. the pony works, mucher betterer
It worked on Mia Farrow…that was no consolation to a 1st grader. Thanks, Jim. ☺
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I pony too! Mine is a bit shorter now but a pony makes me happy. Love the pics, Van! So glad I stopped by today…and funny, I just posted about, in part, short hair disaster of my youth 😀
Great minds ?? I’ll have to check it out. Thanks, Angie. ❤️
Two words, Dorothy Hamill 😜
☺☺☺ Oh, how I remember. She still looks great.
My grandmother actually used to cut my hair – we were very, very close. Still, I’m surprised I trusted her to cut it!! I’m truly sorry you had that pixie cut thrust upon you at the tender age of six….I would find that to be so deeply upsetting as someone who loved having long hair. I’m glad you have your long hair and wear that ponytail! You’re my very own “My Pretty Pony”….can I blame that on my nasty headcold? 🙂
Ha ha…thanks, Dyane, in spite of the head cold…I appreciate you. ❤️
Best that we were what suits us and what we love. I loved my pixie cut. You look serene and sporty with that pony tail. When I did have long hair, I did wear it in a pony tail off my neck. Just practical.
Didn’t work for me, Kitt. Strange enough, when I got depressed, I usually cut it short, letting it grow out when I felt better. ☺ Not sure what to make of that ??
Starting over, on one hand. Hair shirt, on the other.
Hair shirt…great description, especially in the heat of summer. And the starting over…good call. ❤️ Thanks, Kitt.
I love it! wow fond memories of your grama so sweet! I am glad you went back to what you liked! Very nice!adorable picture
Thanks, Lynn, I’m sure we complained about the brush outs at the time, but it was a nightly ritual we missed later. ❤️
that is so sweet and beautiful!
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Maybe it reminds you of your grandma and those loving moments she brushed your hair Van. I love this story. ❤
Diana xo
I’m sure that has a lot to do with it. Happy times…long hair. Sad, traumatic times…chopped short. My grandmother had silky white hair that she kept in a bun. That might be in my future ??? Thanks, Diana ☺
I often still do pony retails too. Boy, my sister and I have many stories to tell about the times we convinced each other we knew just how to cut one another’s hair. Uh oh. I mean even in our teens….
Oh, Jane, we were sibling rivals…never let each other get close with scissors ! ☺ But, I have stories about bangs, and cowlicks.Tragic results.
I hope you will tell those stories!! 🙂
My daughter, in 1st grade, decided to cut off her bangs after getting too hot at recess. Just leaned over into her desk when the teacher wasn’t looking. It was picture day. Cutest thing ever…but not at the time ! ☺
I have the hugest smile on my face!
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A cute picture of little Van and such a sweet memory of your grandmother’s ritual. I like long hair too. It’s easier…and you’re right, the husbands like it. A win-win. 🙂
I just saw a news feature here about the man bun, and wearing hair pulled too tight that is leading to baldness issues. Have to loosen things up a bit. Thanks, Diana.❤️ (and yes, he is always sad when I talk about cutting it short…usually on a hot summer night ).
I like the ponytail. 😀
Thanks, Paul, glad you survived the apocalypse. ☺
Your welcome, Van. Yep, surviving the apocalypse wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be. Once I got past my skin rotting and slipping off my old bones, I started to feel like a new man! 😀
I like my hair short… but I like it long too and have been growing it for a while. You can barely tell… the longer it gets, the more it curls and looks short… 😉
I have the opposite issue, Sue, it curls when it’s short. I never had to iron my long hair like some of my peers back in the day. ☺
Mine always just looks wild… give it five minutes after I have it looking nice for once and it is off on its own agenda 🙂
I understand. Well put, Sue. ☺
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I’m with your husband
Thanks, Derrick, I hear that all the time. There must be something to it. ❤️
I’m sure your husband will tell you what it is 🙂
For sure. ☺
It is funny, I think I had all lengths of hair form one inch to down to my bum. At times I got so tired of my long hair that I cut it shorter. Then again I started again to let it grow, which takes long with my hair…
Mine grows really fast,Erika.I also wear bangs most of the time, and I cut them at least twice a week. I don’t want to talk about leg shaving ! ☺
Oh well, no light without shadow as we say over here… 😀
That’s a great saying. ☺
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A timeless look. You’ve got beautiful hair. I’ve never looked good in ponytails, unfortunately. I prefer braids. 😀
My daughter does braids all the time, it’s adorable…her hair is long and very fine. My braids would look like “horse tails”. ☺ Thanks, Julie
I have really short hair right now but I did have a ponytail. 🙂
I wore it really short in high school, Sam, my bangs were as long as the rest. ☺
I think I look better with long hair. 🙂
You can always change it, Sam. ☺
I have a pixi cut almost. I am going to update my about me page. 🙂
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From one ponytail to another …such a delightful post Van ! Thank you dear friend for bringing me joy this cool evening . Love and hugs , megxxx
My pleasure, Meg. 😄
I love your hair
Why, thank you, Miss Linda. 😉
Interesting and astute of you, V, that the hairstyle and maintenance encouraged (or imposed) on you reflected the way you were cared for and affected your identity. It’s really amazing how much our hair determines our look and all the choices women have to play with that (tires me just to think about). 😛
I know, Diana, it’s exhausting. Thanks for your observations. ❤️
I think it’s true that men prefer long hair, although shorter styles suit certain faces. I once cut my bangs really short…my mother was quite upset with me. I had a pixie once too. When I was in my 20’s I recall saying that once women hit a certain age (perhaps over 45) they shouldn’t wear their hair long because it looks like they’re trying to look young, so when I was in my 40’s I kept my hair shorter, but now in my mid-50’s it’s below my shoulders and I love it!
The age thing is something my husband noticed and used to talk about, almost like it was a requirement to go short for women at some point. I did in my 40’s also…it didn’t last. I found it to be more maintenance that way. Back to the ponytail. ☺
Darling pic of you when you were little!
Thanks, Sherry, for both comments. ❤️
You found your look at stuck with it, Van. And it’s quite fetching, I will add. 🙂